Owning Your Success

What I find perplexing is that many of the people I’ve encountered in my life are more afraid of success than they are of failure. Why is this? If you feel like you’re among those that fear success, let’s examine why and how to move past it, so this way you can enjoy your victories, both large and small.

Here are some of the culprits which might prevent you from experiencing the success you so greatly desire. The fear of success involves other feelings, fears, and behaviors which keep you either in a state of distress or inertia.

1) False Security

There is something appealing about being in a state of “in-progress”. How many people have you talked to that carry on a project for a decade? “Oh I’m planning a trip to Italy.” “I’m still working on my book.” “I’m working on starting my business.” Once you accomplish and finish what you set out to do, there is the fearful anticipation of what’s next. If you finish that project, what comes after that? Being in the state of “in-progress” leads to a false sense of security that you are working on something but really you’re just delaying your dreams. So what comes after you finish? Upward momentum, more possibilities, enjoying the fruits of your labor, getting more clarity on what it is that you truly want to do, and the list goes on and on. But you have to finish first! Granted, some things do take time to piece together but you have to be honest with yourself and look at whether you are procrastinating or paralyzed by fear of the unknown.

2) Scarcity Thinking

Humans are creatures of habit and we tend to get really comfortable being uncomfortable so when anything threatens our sense of the familiar, there is resistance. Being in a state of lack, of wanting, becomes deeply engrained so when we remove the “there is not enough to go around” mentality, it’s possible to feel like a fish out of water. If you’ve been living your life one way for 30 years and suddenly it changes, it becomes difficult to embrace the reality that your desires are fulfilled. Success means that you’ve made it past being in a constant state of struggle and the only way you can stay in an abundant place is to receive the beauty of it. In other words, get used to having what you’ve always wanted. It’s what you’ve worked so hard for, so why sabotage it?

3) Fear of Haters

When you start to climb to the top, be prepared to get noticed! Getting noticed is scary because the green-eyed monsters might come out to try to take you off your pedestal. Jealousy is such an ugly emotion and if you’re worried that the people around you may start to feel jealous towards you, it might be time to examine whether or not these people are a positive force in your life. The people that truly care about you are going to be supportive of your success and genuinely be happy for you. These are the keepers! Surround yourself with those that appreciate, support, and encourage who you are and what you do. Leave the rest. The haters should be taking notes on how to get things done instead of trying to tear other people down.

4) Lack of Self-Love & Esteem

Worthiness becomes an issue for someone who does not love themselves enough to embrace their success. Even if they put their blood, sweat, and tears into it, somehow, they have to ask permission to shine. Does this describe you? When launching into any venture, you’re going to have to the best shot if you have unwavering faith in yourself. Your unwavering faith is what will protect you from the naysayers. It gives you the grounds to keep going even in the face of failure or possible rejection. Loving yourself means actively pursuing your dreams so that you can taste success instead of being a passive by-stander. In what ways are you not loving yourself enough? How can you start to pave a better path?

I hope this post has shed some insights on how you might be standing in your own way. It’s time to move! Do it, do it now. I look forward to your comments below. Perhaps you have a story on how you’ve stood in the way of your own success, please share!

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