How to Beat the Holiday Blues


Feeling a little down or perhaps extremely overwhelmed, especially around this time of year? Guess what, you are completely and totally depression_helpNORMAL. Go ahead, take a deep breath. A lot of people out there are feeling the exact same way you are. Not many will admit that the holidays can drive people into depression, but there is a way out. I’ll provide you with some tips on how to kick the blues in the butt!

This time of year, is difficult for many. We think about the ones we’ve lost and the holidays bring back all sorts of memories and family drama, including the financial pressures of traveling, entertaining, and gift-giving. It is possible to find joy, but we have to work through the shadows first and acknowledge them in order to diminish their power.

There are different forms of depression and if you were already feeling blue, the holidays can exacerbate the issue. Every article about depression will tell you at some point, go seek professional help and maybe get a prescription. I am not an advocate for medication as the first response to any issue. I believe all other options should be exhausted before turning directly to meds. If you’ve tried everything, and nothing has worked…then it makes sense to seek a therapist and explore the possibility of a prescription. This is just my personal opinion though.

I know what it’s like to feel the wrath of the blues. Some of the things that I’ve felt that you might be able to relate to:

being completely listless/spaced out, unable to focus, crying for no reason and not even knowing when the crying fits will occur, becoming socially withdrawn, not able to enjoy the things I used to enjoy, feeling like I’ve lost all of my self-esteem, wanting to sleep all day, not wanting to do anything- period, feeling angry, feeling like I’ve lost my purpose in life.

Your loved ones might develop an extreme dislike for your depression too. They’re going to wonder why you don’t want to partake in any fun. If you’re in a relationship, there’s a chance your partner will take it personally too and become fed up and start to avoid you. It is very easy to fall into the feeling of being abandoned and unloved at this point. You are not alone in these feelings and at times it will feel like you’re being swallowed into a black hole and there is no climbing out. Yes, it can really get that intense! It’s like everything you knew and thought you were, can vanish. Have you ever felt that way, even for a moment? Usually these feelings happen after any major life transition like a career or relationship change. If you have these things collide with timing the holidays, you basically have the perfect storm.

So enough wallowing in the mire, you have to pull yourself up by the bootstraps and fight back either gently or fiercely, whatever works for you. Honestly, sheer willpower is what it takes which means that you have to summon the strength to take actions, even if you think you can’t. Think of this way: your depression is not you. It is a separate entity outside of you that you have to slay. You are Bilbo Baggins and the depression is Smaug. You need to put that dragon to rest! Try these things:

Take care of yourself

Yes, muster up the strength to shower. Dress yourself nicely. Even if you want to throw on pajamas and go to work looking like some birds nested in your hair, don’t do it. Looking good will help you feel better. It’s not going to solve everything but it will help! If possible, maybe buy yourself a new outfit or two. Switch up your look. Get the massage you’ve been putting off. Take your claws in for a pedicure.

Avoid Getting Completely Plastered

You may want to drink. But think in terms of moderation. Especially when there is an open bar at all of these holiday parties, the temptation is there. When the last thing you want to do is be social and you’re forced into situations where you have to be, it’s excruciating, I know! Remember, alcohol and depression are like oil and water, they don’t mix. The last thing you want to do is get completely wasted and drunk text your Ex or get into a brawl with Aunt Bettie, who is being way too intrusive on how you’re living your life. Where there is family, sometimes there is judgement being passed around from the people who know “what is best for you” and things can get heated. Just being real here!

Get Physical

Maybe you used to run marathons and now you can’t get out of bed. Start small. Metaphorically speaking, if you don’t want to run, then walk! Baby steps. If you used to be a yogi and you’ve avoided yoga for two months, then start off with simple stretches or take a child’s pose. Completely avoiding exercise when we’re depressed is one of the worst things you can do. If you can’t do your full workout routine, do a portion. Something is still better than nothing until you can get back into your regular routine.

Tidy Up

There’s a small chance you’ve been ordering Chinese or pizza a lot and avoiding chores, even possibly doing the “sniff-check” on your laundry. Sitting in a pile of filth, will keep you in your funk, no pun intended. If you don’t have the energy to clean right now, ask for help or hire someone even if it’s just once. A nice, clean, comfy home will help you feel a little better.

Know That It Takes Time

Chances are you didn’t suddenly become sad overnight. It’s likely that it was a series of events that caused it.  Maybe it was dormant and there was a “trigger” event (like the holidays) that really brought the depression out. The reality is that it may take awhile to feel good again. There’s a chance that the people around you will get angry in the process but you have to put that aside and keep moving along. Keep striving towards the better days even if it seems like it’s taking FOREVER.

Plan Something to Look Forward To

Put something on the calendar that you can work towards or look forward to, like a trip to visit friends or family. Or maybe an event or concert. Google upcoming events related to something that you love to do, totally unrelated to work. Take something from your bucket list and start to plan it out.


Try all of these things and let me know how it works out. I wish for you lots of healing and getting your groove back! Feel free to leave comments below.

Love and Light,

Rose Rising




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